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Driver guilty in deaths of men from Cross Lake

Posted by Administrator on May 24, 2010

Pedestrians mowed down at intersection

A paramedic escorts Lucy Muthoka at scene of crash in June, 2008. (BORIS,MINKEVICH@FREEPRESS.MB ARCHIVES)

A paramedic escorts Lucy Muthoka at scene of crash in June, 2008. (BORIS,MINKEVICH@FREEPRESS.MB ARCHIVES)

A Winnipeg woman has admitted to killing two pedestrians in a horrific downtown crash.

Lucy Muthoka, 52, pleaded guilty to two counts of dangerous driving causing death for the June 25, 2008 incident at the intersection of Donald Street and St. Mary Avenue.

Muthoka has been free on bail since police arrested her and laid charges in December 2008. The matter has been adjourned to June 30 and she will learn her fate once pre-sentence reports and victim-impact statements have been completed, likely after the end of June.

William Halcrow, 57, and James Ross, 58, were killed instantly after being hit by Muthoka’s Subaru Forester. The two friends were from the Cross Lake reserve in northern Manitoba and were in Winnipeg for medical treatment. Several bystanders who witnessed the crash — and narrowly avoided being hit — tried frantically to revive the men, as did firefighters and paramedics.

Friends told the Free Press at the time that Muthoka is a devoutly religious single mother who was driving home from work when she was involved in the catastrophic string of events. They said the Kenyan woman “was blank” about the details of the crash. She has no prior criminal record.

Just prior to the collision that killed the men, Muthoka had rear-ended a truck stopped at a light, police allege. That pushed the truck forward and injured pedestrian David Matsubara, 49, who witnesses said became pinned against another vehicle. He suffered a broken shoulder and lacerated skull.

Muthoka also hit a fire hydrant, which caused hundreds of litres of water to quickly flood the area and hampered the police investigation because it was difficult to re-create the scene and figure out the sequence of events.

www.mikeoncrime.com

Source: Winnipeg Free Press

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2002: Tycoon Scot, 67 and his lover, 21 in death smash

Posted by Administrator on May 24, 2010

Byline: ROBERT FAIRBURN EXCLUSIVE

NICKY Polcino started out as a penniless Italian waiter and built up a multi-million pound property empire in Scotland.

And at a time when most men were looking forward to retirement, he stunned stun  his family by marrying an African beauty 46 years his junior.

But his new life in Kenya ended in tragedy on Wednesday.

The father-of-five died in a horror road smash near Malindi, by the Indian Ocean, when his car was crushed by a petrol petrol: see gasoline.  tanker.

A business colleague was also killed in the crash, which happened on a straight stretch of road.

But his 21-year-old wife Anna, who was in the back seat and not wearing a seat belt, was miraculously  thrown clear of the wreckage. She is now recovering in a Kenyan hospital as local police carry out an investigation.

The businessman’s family in Scotland have been told that the accident happened as he was driving back to his village with a friend and Anna, a penniless girl he allegedly picked up on a beach.

The petrol tanker approached them from the opposite direction.

Police believe the car clipped the tanker, then went underneath the huge vehicle.

Back home in Edinburgh yesterday, Nicky’s family were still trying to come to terms with his death.

Following Italian tradition, the curtains were drawn at the pounds 300,000 luxury bungalow bungalow [Indian bangla,=house], dwelling built in a style developed from that of a form of rural house in India. The original bungalow typically has one story, few rooms, and a maximum of cross drafts, with high ceilings, unusually large window and door  in the Duddingston area of the city as 55-year-old Jackie Waller – the woman he fondly referred to as his “wife” – spoke of his remarkable rags-to-riches story.

Nicky, 67, had four children with Jackie during their 37 year relationship and another son from his first marriage in Australia.

Jackie revealed: “Anna has called to say what happened but I had to put the phone down on her, I just could not understand it.

“It appears to have been a tragic accident but we are all very upset about it.

“I told him he was a fool when he said he was getting married. The whole thing seems very suspicious to me but we will just have to wait for the investigation to be completed.

“We never married but we always said we would if either one of us was five minutes away from dying.

“He loved his dog, couch and the telly. He was very tight with money but a hard worker, mainly for the children. He was a typical Italian.”

Despite his shock marriage to Anna, Jackie insisted she was still on good terms with Nicky.

She said yesterday: “We spoke on the phone a lot. I think he got married so that Anna could go with him to Italy.”

The couple’s eldest  daughter Amanda, 34, was reluctant to discuss her father’s marriage to the 21-year-old African.

She said: “What we have been told is that the accident happened on a straight piece of road.

“He was going back to the village and a petrol tanker was coming from the other direction.

“The car clipped the end of the tanker and went underneath the tanker.

“It has come as a shock to us all.

“The comfort we can take from this is that we have been told by friends he had just visited that on the morning he died he was in high spirits .

“He loved football and supported Napoli as well as Hibs.”

Nicky grew up in Italy but was disowned  by his father for not following the family tradition of farming. Instead, he emigrated to Australia.

He had a son from his first marriage in Australia and then in 1960 decided to try his luck in Scotland.

Nicky arrived in Edinburgh clutching only a small suitcase and slept in Princes Street Gardens on his first night.

But he soon got a job as a waiter in an Italian restaurant and met Jackie in 1963.

They rented out the Antigua Cafe and later bought the Sorrento Italian restaurant and things took off from there.

He made millions building up a string of city centre properties in Edinburgh.

He leased it to a number of top restaurants including Vito’s (Now Cafe Rouge), Il Castello, The Orchid Restaurant and Rick’s. The family mingled with stars like Elizabeth Taylor –  and Sean Connery.

They also had the Duchess of York Duchess of York is a title held by the wife of the Duke of York since the first Duke of York in 1384. The title is gained with matrimony alone and is forfeited on divorce.  as a diner in their restaurants.

Nicky also owned a number of commercial properties in his native Italy as well as the 220 apartment holiday complex called Oasis in Malindi, Kenya.

But after falling for Anna and marrying her last summer, the split with Jackie caused bitterness within the family.

At the time their son Cosimo, 31, said: “As far as I knew, he and my mum were very happy.

“I can’t believe he would do this to my mum – especially after they’ve been together for so long.”

Cosimo claimed that his father had wanted to move Anna into their Edinburgh home but Jackie had put her foot down and refused to budge.

He had worked with his father at the holiday complex in Kenya but when he found out about the marriage he returned to Scotland with his Kenyan model wife, Linda, 22, a former Miss West Coast of Africa.

Cosimo said he had stopped speaking to his father due to the split adding: “I was very close to my dad but I was sick at what he did to my mother.

“I knew he had some young woman looking after him. She was a 21-year-old called Anna he’d picked up on the beach.

“I think my mother liked to know he was being well looked after because he had a triple heart bypass operation a few years back and had been told by his doctors to take things easy.”

A former business colleague said yesterday: “Nicky had fallen out with his son about the running of the business in Africa.

“He was out there to sort a few things out and he spent a lot of time there for tax reasons I think.

“I heard the accident was absolutely horrific hor·rif·ic and the two people in the front of the car had no chance.

“Nicky’s wife had been sitting in the back without a seatbelt and was somehow thrown out of the car and survived.”

An investigation by the Kenyan authorities is under way into the exact circumstances of the crash.

Arrangements are being made to fly Nicky’s body from Kenya to Italy for burial and a mass service is being planned for Edinburgh.

Nicky was a well-known figure in the Edinburgh Italian community and a large turnout is anticipated at his memorial mass service on a date still to be arranged.

Jackie said: “His plans were to eventually retire in Italy but he never knew when to stop working. He also loved this country and was happy here.

“He helped a lot of Italians to come to Scotland who later turned out to be successful businessmen here.

“Nicky was well known for his moaning and groaning but if people needed help he was always there for them.

“We made a lot of sacrifices when we were younger. There was never meat on the table as that was too much of a luxury.

“But we kept working hard and eventually got the rewards for that.”

Now a battle could be looming looming: see mirage.  for Nicky’s fortune.

But Jackie said: “I hope it won’t come to that.

“I’ve spoken to my lawyer who has told me I was his wife for 35 years and it should be okay.”

A spokesman for the Foreign Office said last night they were still awaiting details of the fatal accident.

-Source: Scottish Daily Record

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Wife Cuts Off Husband’s Head for Losing Cash

Posted by Administrator on May 24, 2010

A man has been beheaded by his wife for losing money meant for buying land.

Marakwet East police chief Philip Opiyo said the woman picked an axe and beheaded Mr Musa Mnyama as he slept.

The 37-year-old man had gone to Kapcherop trading centre at the weekend to meet the owner of the land and settle the debt.

But according to grief-stricken relatives, Mr Mnyama instead entertained himself with friends at a bar. They believe his friends stole the Sh125,000 from him.

“When he arrived home on Sunday evening, he appeared drunk and frustrated. Things were made worse when the owner of the land informed his wife that the payment had not been settled,” Mr Nick Yano, who is Mr Mnyama’s relative, said.

Mr Opiyo said the man could neither convince his wife why he slept out nor could he account for the lost cash.

“As the inebriated man slept, she picked an axe and beheaded him,” he said. She surrendered to the police on Monday.

Administration police officers stormed a primary school in Embobut in the same district on Monday to rescue a school head from a teacher armed with an AK-47 rifle.

According to Mr Opiyo, the suspect had accused the Boroko Primary School headteacher of suspending his children. He had earlier fought with him in the staff room.

“Then he rushed to his house to pick his rifle,” Mr Opiyo said, adding that the suspect would be charged with attempted murder and illegal possession of a firearm.

Source: Daily Nation

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Stand up and be counted

Posted by Administrator on May 23, 2010

According to statistics, there are more than 250,000 Kenyans living in the United States. Many Kenyans came to the United States to seek further education. This I would say is the main reason behind the majority who are living here. Some came and overstayed their visas. And others do not know how they ended up here! They were young when their parents migrated into the United States. The logical progression is that those who come follow the process of being and becoming: That is, they find wives or husbands and marry. Some marry Americans, others marry people from South America, others marry fellow Africans, but others, and I would say many, choose to keep the genetic mutations consistent with their heritage and marry fellow Kenyans. No matter the mix-grill they become families.

After marrying, these couples have children, who according to the US laws are US citizens at birth. This then suggests that in addition to the 250,000 Kenyans, there are about 50,000 children who we can call Kenyan- Americans. We can therefore calculate and conclude that there are more than 400, 000 Kenyans who are living in the United States.

Democracy is not the rule of the people by the people and for the people; rather it is the rule of the majority. Democracy has absolutely nothing to do with ideology; rather it has everything to do with governing enough people to attend your wedding party!

When Democracy is done right, and it never is, a group that holds a certain ideology come together and use their majority power to push for principles, policies, and theories that help move society and governments in the direction they see fit.

It is this fact that must be instituted within the Kenyan community in the United States for Kenyan-Americans to become relevant participants in the American Democratic process. If it is true that the Kenyan community has more than 50,000 children who are American citizens, it is sad that we do not have a more powerful voice and presence in the United States government policies towards Kenya! What we have in President Obama is a Kenyan-American who has abandoned his country of origin to build his country of birth. It is sad that Obama’s father did not have a great influence on him to direct him towards a better home-bound philosophy; however it is also sad that Obama himself does not seem to understand Kenya’s historical development. His approach to Kenya, like his approach to American politics, reflects his mother’s ideology rather than his father’s!

Speaking to many Kenyans, I have come to hear their argument: “Well, I do not think my voice makes any difference.” Or, “Why would a US Senator or Congressman listen to me?” What many people do not know is that US Senators and Congressmen are the most available people in this country. I would argue that they are more available than some church pastors!

America is pro-Kenyan. The people on Capital Hill, though not directly involved in Africa, have an interest in what goes on in the continent. The problem is that what they know about Kenya is not from Kenyans; rather it is from American interest groups who qualify themselves as experts on everything from Kenya’s historical and cultural development to my mother tongue, Kikuyu, even though some spent only a week in the Maasai Mara on a safari! It is these people who right now have joined together with certain politicians In Kenya to push the Obama Administration to support Kenya’s Draft Constitution. That is why the constitution reflects more of the American Liberal agenda than the Conservative American agenda. Kenyans in America are never heard from.

The Immigration Bill in Arizona will not only affect Mexicans, rather, it will also affect many Kenyans who are in Arizona legally or illegally. The US budget includes provisions that affect funding of programs in Kenya. The debates in Washington also affect US policy towards Kenya!

That is why Kenyans should be involved in the American political process and parents must teach their children to be involved! Whether you are legal or illegal in this country, if you are a parent to a US citizen, you can help shape US Policy towards Kenya for the better.

By Teddy Njoroge Kamau, PhD, KEN Senior Editor and International Bureau Chief

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Kenyan ranch in the spotlight as widow seeks Sh900bn inheritance

Posted by Administrator on May 23, 2010

Alec, the step-son of Sylvia Wildenstein (during her younger days), owns the 66,000-acre Ol Jogi Ranch in Laikipia. Ms Wildenstein has battled for eight years through Paris courts to secure rights to her inheritance, which she claims her stepsons had tricked her out of. Photos/ceciliarodhe.com and cavadeos.com

Alec, the step-son of Sylvia Wildenstein (during her younger days), owns the 66,000-acre Ol Jogi Ranch in Laikipia. Ms Wildenstein has battled for eight years through Paris courts to secure rights to her inheritance, which she claims her stepsons had tricked her out of. Photos/ceciliarodhe.com and cavadeos.com

By Mugumo Munene

A ranch in Kenya is at the heart of an inheritance tussle in Paris, France.

The 66,000-acre property, located 40 kilometres from Nanyuki town, is the private home of one of the world’s wealthiest families.

A widow in her mid-70s is at the centre of the court battle in Paris whose tale of fortune, misery, heartache, best-kept-business secrets and enormous wealth stretches from a nuclear bunker in New York to the plains stretching out of the foot of Mt Kenya.

Ms Sylvia Wildenstein, 76, the widow of art collector Daniel Wildenstein, has battled for eight years through Paris courts to secure rights to her inheritance, which she claims her stepsons had tricked her out of.

She continues her fight to lift the lid on the scope of the family’s fortune and art collection, thought to be one of the largest private collections in the world.

Art collections attract little interest in Africa but are enormously valued in Western countries. Fabulously wealthy. Stinking rich. Loaded. Flush. Moneyed. Opulent. Affluent.

Words fail to capture the extent of the wealth of the Wildenstein family, one of the world’s most powerful art-dealing dynasties, and it’s little wonder that Sylvia is seeking 8.6 billion British pounds (about Sh963 billion), according to last week’s edition of UK newspaper Sunday Times.

The money she seeks is about Sh100 billion more than the Kenya Government’s 2009/2010 budget.

Numerous accounts on the internet show that the family empire had been founded in Alsace in 1875 by Nathan Wildenstein, a cloth merchant who began to deal in valuable works of art.

Much of the family’s collections are said to be housed in a nuclear bunker in the Catskill mountains, New York state. The family kept a long tradition of secrets, running a close-knit business (works of art in Europe and America are adored for authenticity) until 1997 when an explosive divorce case involving one of the heirs to the multi-billion-dollar fortune spilt the beans.

Alec Wildenstein, a step-son of Sylvia, is the man whose divorce case opened the window into the tantalising secrets of the family heritage. He was born in Marseilles on August 5, 1940.

Saudi arms dealer

He married Swiss-born Jocelyne Perisse in 1978 in a ceremony at Las Vegas after the couple had been introduced a year before by Adnan Khashoggi, a multi-millionaire Saudi arms dealer, who had invited Jocelyne to stay at his Ol Pejeta Ranch in Kenya.

Wildenstein’s own estate — the 66,000-acre Ol Jogi Ranch — is nearby, and it was arranged that Jocelyne should join Alec on a dawn lion hunt. Within a year, he had proposed.

The couple moved between an apartment in Paris, a Caribbean beach estate, a château in France and a house in Lausanne, Switzerland. Their marital base was a five-storey New York town house which was also home to five pure-bred greyhound dogs and a rare monkey.

The couple turned the ranch into a private playground in the wild. In the ranch are giraffe, leopard, lion, white rhino and other big game, some imported from South Africa. It is also the only place in Africa with a bear.

Guests are generally expected to fly in, and it is not advertised on the Internet as with other exclusive resorts.

Refinements include the building of nearly 200 km of road, 55 artificial lakes, a swimming pool with rocks and waterfalls, a golf course, a racetrack, and a tennis court with floodlights — all maintained by a horde of 366 workers.

Luxurious home

According to Symbion, the company that developed it, the “project consisted of unlimited scope related to the brief which allowed Symbion to develop this luxurious private home for its owners.

A luxurious swimming pool set beneath a cascading waterfall includes tiger cages with their own swimming pools.

It has a unique bedroom chalet located at the top of the towering Ol Jogi rock Kopjes constructed with its own freeform lagoon swimming pool offering panoramic views across the plains towards Mount Kenya, says the development company.

The ranch boasts of a runway stretching 1.25 km, about the same length of the Malindi airstrip.

Determined that his wife should always outshine her rivals at Manhattan social events, Alec Wildenstein spent lavishly on her wardrobe and bought her huge quantities of jewellery.

She once spent $10 million (about Sh750 million) in one visit to Cartier, the renowned French jeweller and watchmaker. According to Jocelyne, however, her husband was a difficult man to please.

She began to fear that he was losing interest in her and, calling to mind that he liked exotic wild cats, decided that he might find her more attractive if she became “more feline”.

To achieve the desired effect, she had her pigment darkened. Unfortunately, her plastic surgery (costing a cumulative £2 million) had the opposite effect.

The first time Wildenstein saw his newly-sculpted wife, he was said to have screamed in horror, unable to recognise her.

“She seems to think that you fix a face the same way you fix a house,” he was later to complain.

But Jocelyne took his reaction as evidence that she had not gone far enough. She embarked on a series of cosmetic procedures to “improve” her looks.

By the end, her skin was stretched so tightly over her face that she could hardly blink, and her lips were so stuffed with collagen they looked like rubber.

On the night of September 3, 1997, she went unannounced to the couple’s opulent Manhattan home and found her husband in bed with a 19-year-old, long-legged Russian girl.

Alec hastily wrapped himself in a towel, grabbed a 9mm handgun and pointed it at his wife and her two bodyguards. “I wasn’t expecting anyone,” he screamed with a touch of understatement. “You’re trespassing. You don’t belong here.”

The bodyguards summoned the police, who arrested Alec. The relationship was played out acrimoniously in the courts as Jocelyne sued for divorce on the grounds of her husband’s adultery.

The details, as they poured from Jocelyne’s lips in the divorce proceeding, told the story of a family of seemingly unlimited wealth.

According to her, she and Alec “routinely wrote cheques and made withdrawals” from their Chase Manhattan Bank account “for $200,000 to $250,000 a month”.

Kenya ranch
Jocelyne said that over the last 20 years, they did “millions of dollars worth of renovations on the Paris castle and the Kenya ranch,” and she directed the management, hiring, and staff of those properties.

The routine operating costs of the ranch alone was $150,000 a month. She needed $1 million a month to run her household, she declared, because years of dependence on servants had left her with no idea of how to light a stove, make toast or boil an egg.

After a lengthy court hearing, she was awarded tens of millions of dollars, including $540,000 in back maintenance.

The judge, however, ordered that she pay for further facelifts herself and advised her to buy a microwave. Wildenstein’s legal problems were not over.

In 2005, his stepmother Sylvia – a former Israeli army sergeant – took Alec to court, claiming that he and his brother Guy had cheated her out of her inheritance on the death of their father.

The Court of Appeal in Paris ordered the brothers to pay Sylvia £10 million (about Sh1 billion).

Sourced from the Internet

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No children for me, please

Posted by Administrator on May 22, 2010

Dorothy Ooko. PHOTO/ PETERSON GITHAIGA

Dorothy Ooko. PHOTO/ PETERSON GITHAIGA

By CAROLINE NJUNG’E
Posted Thursday, May 20 2010 at 17:21

Chances are that you would like her almost instantly when you meet her. She has this bubbly personality that is infectious, and is the kind of person that you would not hesitate to leave your children with because, to use a cliché, you’re sure that they would get along like a house on fire.

In fact, she is god-mother to one of her friend’s children and even taught Sunday school at her church for a several years. That is why most people are taken aback when they learn that Dorothy Ooko is not keen on having children of her own.

There is nothing ‘wrong’ with her, if you’re wondering. In fact, she is happily married, is well-educated and has an enviable job that has her globe-trotting often.

She also has a healthy social life and boasts of friendships that go back to her childhood. She has four nieces and two nephews who she loves to spoil and all her friends’ children call her auntie. But she doesn’t want children of her own. Why’s that?

Here is her story.

When I turned 38 and still hadn’t found someone I wanted to settle down with, I sort of made peace with the fact that I might never get married or have children of my own. Then I met my husband the following year, and a year later, when I turned 40, we got married.

Nowadays, more and more women are getting children in their forties and I could have chosen to have one or more of my own, but by then, I wasn’t sure that it was a responsibility I was willing to take on.

Let’s face it, at 40, your energy levels are not what they used to be when you were, say, in your mid-twenties.

After a lot of soul-searching, I knew that I was at a stage in my life where getting children wasn’t the wisest choice to make. I pictured having a 10-year-old at 50, and then raising a teenager at 60 and the image that came to mind wasn’t appealing.

I also travel a lot because of my job and so does my husband – who would take care of our child or children if both of us were barely at home? I, of course, shared my feelings with him and when he said he too wasn’t keen on having children, I felt immensely relieved.

Unfortunately though, our society is unforgiving towards women like me who have dared go against the norm. I am comfortable with the decision I made four years ago especially after concluding that kids are not the definition of a good marriage.

The interesting fact, however, is that other people are uncomfortable with my decision. People I know have tried to get me to change my mind while others who assume that I am unable to have children of my own have encouraged me to adopt.

The other day, my gynecologist advised me to start trying for a child immediately if I intend to have one because time wasn’t on my side.

There are also others who have accused me of being “selfish” for not wanting children, and wondered who I was going to leave my property to.

Once I tried explaining that I had an extended family which included nephews and nieces, but someone retorted that they were not my children, so it wouldn’t be the same.

I have even had friends who have promised that they will help me look after my child when I do get one, insisting that it is not “too late” for me. I have since concluded that there will always be pressure to do something else.

Think about it, when you’re single, there’s pressure to get married, when you get married, there’s pressure to have children, when you do have children, there’s pressure to have a boy if you had a girl and if it is a girl, there’s pressure to have a boy so that you can achieve a gender balance…the pressure just never ends and as a result, there are many miserable women out there.

Don’t get me wrong though, I think that motherhood is wonderful…I practically raised the youngest two in our family. I was in my early twenties when they came along so I was more of a mother figure to them than I was their sister.

I actually enjoyed the experience of helping my mum raise them but the truth is that not all women want to have children. The sooner society accepts this, the better. Interestingly, my mother, who I am very close to, has never questioned why I don’t want to have children.

To be sincere though, there are times when doubts creep in and I ask myself whether my husband and I have missed something, especially when I watch my younger sister who got married at 21 with her children, or my close friends with their children.

At such times though, I look at my life and realise that I am living it to the full, that I am happy, that I feel fulfilled and quite comfortable in my own skin.

My advice to women who are not married yet and are in their thirties or forties, do not have children or don’t want them, is to be comfortable with their life just the way it is and save themselves unnecessary misery.

Your marital status should not define you and neither should your children or lack of them be a measure of your success or failure.

Prisca Waiyaki’s* story “I just cannot stand children, I find them annoying, I feel absolutely nothing for them, no emotional attachment whatsoever, nothing,” begins Prisca* who opened up to us on condition that we do not disclose her identity.

Prisca, an attractive, educated and successful fashion designer, is in her mid thirties, and says that her strong, unusual feelings are not tied to any psychological shortcoming.

“I had a normal upbringing – I grew up in a happy household but since I was a small girl, I knew that I did not want children of my own,” she explains.

She admits though, that she does feel protective towards children, but in the same way she does towards defenseless animals, such as cats and dogs.

She says the idea of walking through her front door to shouts of “mummy, mummy” does not appeal to her, stressing that a relaxed evening or weekend for her is one where she can turn off her phone and enjoy solitude with no human voice in the background.

“My house is somewhere I retreat to, to get away from everyone and everything; it is where I go when I want peace and sanity after a hard day’s work – this would be impossible with children all over the place.”

She admits that most people, especially those who have children, get offended when they find out about her dislike for children. But she is unapologetic, casually stating that she has no obligation to like your children.

Whenever she finds herself around children, she says, she simply ignores them, and they in turn, are happy to ignore her.

“You will never find me going like; “Hi sunshine; how was school?” with a fake smile plastered on my lips.

Children are intelligent and would see right through it,” she argues, adding even though she occasionally offers her nephews and nieces some attention, the slight attachment she feels towards them comes from the mere fact that they are her siblings’ children.

She is also not impressed by women who “think they’re something amazing just because they have given birth.”

“It’s not like you climbed Mt. Everest, you have just done something that other women have been doing since the beginning of time.”

Even though she is unimpressed by the intensity that accompanies childbearing, she does think that motherhood is the toughest job in the world and which does not receive the appreciation it deserves.

Why would a man, with children at home be in a pub watching football on a Sunday for instance? She wonders. She also wonders why any woman would want to have a child and then “dump them on the maid.” Motherhood, she feels, should be a continuous hands-on job.

“Maybe I am being holier than thou, but I feel I’m better than that woman who lets other people raise her children for her,” she states, adding that several people have tried to tell her that she would change her mind if she got children of her own. But she says that she knows herself inside out, and the one thing she is sure of is that she never wants to have children.

Society, she points out, has no right to make women who have expressed no desire to have children feel guilty. She, in fact, gets livid when she hears people saying that not wanting to have children is unAfrican.

“It is an individual choice whether you’re African or not,” she shoots.

Sheila Mwanyigha

“Kids are beautiful, but they can be a nightmare,” states Sheila, who admits that she is not sure whether she wants to have children or not. If anything, she adds, her biological clock is still silent.

“Children are a full-time responsibility and, to be honest, it is a responsibility that I am not entirely keen on right now – I’m focused on my job and satisfied with my life just the way it is at the moment,” she explains, observing that while anyone can be a parent, not everyone is capable of the full-time responsibility that comes with being a mum or a dad.

This, she feels, is why women should not be pressurised to get married or have children just because they have reached a certain age. According to her, not everyone is cut out to be a mother or father.

“Be honest about who you are and make no apologies for it – unless you’re sure that you want to go down that road, don’t bow to pressure.”

She also feels that if a person tells you from the onset that they don’t want to have children, and you do, the best thing to do is walk away, not go ahead and get married or stick in the relationship hoping that they’ll change their mind with time.

Her mother, she says, has never asked her for grandchildren, and has made it clear that she has her support whichever way she chooses to go.

“Contrary to what society wants women to believe, it is possible to have a fulfilled life, whether one has children or not,” she concludes.

cnjunge@ke.nationmedia.com

-Daily Nation

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Confessions of a ‘gold digger’

Posted by Administrator on May 22, 2010

By WINFRED KAGWE
Posted Wednesday, May 19 2010 at 11:02

Yes, they do exist and have no apologies to make for it. The so “gold diggers,” that class of women and men — in recent times — who get in to relationships purely for the money.

It is a Saturday afternoon and I am supposed to meet Maryanne*, 27, a self-proclaimed gold digger whom I have known for several months now. She is reluctant and urges me not to use her name in the story. “I could lose my opportunities,” she says.

The place is her Upperhill apartment and she has volunteered to make dinner.

“So, no going out today?” she asks when she picks me from town in her clean Toyota Allex. We pass by Nakumatt Lifestyle for some ‘small’ shopping in preparation for the evening and I cannot wait to hear her story.

Even though I have been to the spacious well-furnished house several times, today she knows I am here to talk about other matters, for example, how she manages to live in a house whose rent is Sh45,000, yet her salary is little above Sh50,000.

This is a good evening to hear about that since her boyfriend (married but the wife lives abroad) also the financier of her every expense, is away on business (in other words, visiting his wife).

Causes

As we make dinner in her kitchen, equipped to the hilt, she tells me about how she grew up in the village where there was nothing sophisticated to see around, and how she can never go back to that kind of life again.

Brilliant in academics, she had managed to make it to secondary school despite the difficulties, and found herself in a different world set where she met girls coming even from Nairobi.

“These girls would show photos of their last holidays, spotting fashionable clothes in beautiful locations, they received lots of pocket money, carried fancy junk foods and all I would think was how lucky they were,” she says.

But now, she seems to have it all, and as we move around the apartment, she opens her Facebook page from her laptop to show me photos of her February trip to Johannesburg (though I have seen them enough times).

Maryanne continues with her story and tells me about how by the end of high school, the envy she had over her classy classmates was too much to bear that she swore she would work very hard to drive those posh cars, take holiday trips, live a comfortable life and help her parents.

But her decision to ‘work hard’ was hit by reality when she joined college, she says. She realised that the riches would take longer coming and a lot more energy than she had thought.

By now we are finished with dinner and she gathers a report of how the meal was, informing me that it is a new recipe she is trying out so as to surprise her boyfriend when he comes back from ‘wherever’.

So how did she get to join the gold diggers club?

“A friend saved me,” she says. “In college, I had seen my dream fading until a new friend said to me, ‘use what you have and you’ll never have to struggle a day in my life’,” she says.

That was when she realised how some of her peers were living — very comfortably, and all they had to do was show a slight interest in the bunch of men around them. Never mind the age, marital status or what they did for a living as long as they could provide for the basic needs.

That was a rally call for her, and for an attractive young woman, she had no trouble finding a man who could toss out cash for pocket money, shopping, outings, clothes, makeup and other luxuries.

That was all she needed at the time and the relationship seemed to last as long as there was no new guy giving more cash.

But as time moved on and she got her first job, priorities changed. She had bigger worries and needed bigger wallets.

“Rent if not paid on time can leave you homeless, yet you are almost volunteering on your first job,” she says.

This meant the campus boyfriends had to be dumped for more ‘serious’ guys who could pay rent, and specifically not in Eastlands.

“I would express fear of being thrown out by the landlord, and since he could not invite me to live with him and his wife, what choice did he have but to pay months in advance,” she adds.

But even then, she says, the money is never enough. In trying to keep up with her colleagues she finally landed the man who could give her all. He has bought her a car, pays the pricey rent four months in advance and finances the once-in-a-while trips around the world.

It is still not enough though, she confesses, four years down the line with one man, and other heartbroken ones in the closet, she would still go for more if the opportunity presented itself, she says.

This is despite the fact that the boyfriend pays for all the expenses — rent, fuel, health club and her general maintenance, on top of giving her about Sh15,000 every month to take to her mother and deposit some of it in her bank account.

In some way, Maryanne makes him feel so guilty whenever he is going away to see his wife that he leaves her a high limit credit card, in case of ‘emergency’, she chuckles as she tells me.

You probably think she is evil, but women all over the world have been said to love money and have devised every means to get their hands on it. Yes, financial security is an important factor to everyone, but some do go overboard.

Relationships have become so much about money, leaving almost penniless and sometimes heartbroken adults to pick up the pieces.

To some like Maryanne, it is a way of trying to cover up for the past she never had, even though she had the choice to build a career and live comfortably; but she has chosen to get it the easier and quicker way.

A poor childhood is not the only reason. Some women will do anything to get hold of cash in men’s pockets just for the pure fun of it or to settle of scores.

Take for instance 29-year-old Joan*, (another gold digger who doesn’t want to be named), brought up by a well-off father who apart from providing basic needs, never took care of her mother and siblings.

Instead, he spent his time out with other women splashing out cash. Now when she sees a man, she says she has to ‘milk him dry’ until he crawls back to stick with his family.

Some will also say it is really the option left for many women out there arguing they just want to provide for themselves.

Whatever the motive, it is not news that those who feel they do not have enough will do all they can to get more, and those who feel they have enough money, will spend as much of it for something in return.

The targets

Older men, approaching or beyond retirement age, are the most obvious target. Reason: they have accumulated some good wealth, taken their children through school, hence spare cash to spend.

Their generosity seems to cover up for their looks, ill health, potbellies and white hair. And because most of them are married, they live in fear of being exposed by the gold diggers for chasing the girls more than half their age.

The gold digger also hopes to find her way into the old man’s heart so that he may leave part of his wealth to her when he drops dead in the foreseeable future.

Many men have been known to die and leave their mistresses everything, while the wife and kids wallow in poverty.

With their general physical appearance, some of the guys live under the conviction that they are having ‘quality time’ together, not knowing the girl does not want to be seen with grandpa out lest it spoils her future operations.

“Money with all its good works cannot make up the looks of a man trying to live like he is 30 years younger,” Joan expresses the disgust for the physical appearance of the man she is ‘detoothing’ at the moment.

At least Maryanne likes the appearance of her boyfriend and does not mind stepping out of the house with him even though she says she has to guard him against some of her girlfriends who may want to pounce on the guy for his money.

Does anyone ever wonder anymore why so many women head to the coast during the tourism peak season?

Most people know of a friend, former classmate of a relative who was swept off their feet by a white man and now lives luxuriously in Malindi or outside the country. No need to say more, white men are like hot cakes for the local gold diggers.

Politician and respectable businessmen are not spared in any way. For them, it is mostly a win-win situation for the gold diggers, who find their way into their lives. He either gives you the money to keep the relationship going or ‘force’ you to use blackmail if things do not go well.

For the politician, one lady says, it is guilt-free enjoying, regarded as ‘our money’ referring to taxes paid by Kenyans.

Younger men, especially those in the corporate scenes have been identified as a good training ground for starter gold diggers.

They introduce the college girls and those straight from the village to the social scenes only to be dumped the moment the girl meets with his boss, who is obviously more established.

John*, 28, has fallen victim of young girls using him as a stepping stone as they try to go big on the gold digging act.

After all, the makeup, good clothes and residence in a decent neighbourhood do not come cheap. It is an investment.

Most men, especially those who are wealthy, are not interested in a woman who looks like trash and so they have to make the hair and wear nice clothes.

An investment Maryanne says she has got the returns for. She remembers the joy she would have in college when her then boyfriend would leave her Sh1,000 for pocket money.

Now, she says, “If he does not deposit at least thrice what I earn for my monthly spend, above the rent and fuel, of what use is he then?”

How they do it

And she adds that it takes a lot of patience since, “you do not just walk up to a man on the second day of meeting him and ask for a car.”

“Every stage of the relationship has to bring in some new development, even if it is not the money; some benefit like a better job or membership in one of the up market clubs, where there are even better guys,” she says, “I am not cheating on him, I am just securing my future,” says Maryanne

According to her, hanging out in a dark pub in the estates or Tom Mboya Street would not do any good to the image she has strived so hard to build.

Although she acknowledges that there are some moneyed guys who hangout there, they are too mean to treat themselves to a nice evening in better places and would not be generous to others either. 

“These are the kind of men who will want you to give birth to their offspring at Pumwani — no way,” she says.

But it is not always an easy way into the gold digging club. A lot goes into catching the appropriate man, but more work comes in when it comes to keeping them.

“It is not that any woman will approach a man and tell him, ‘I want your money’ on the face. It is an art, perfected over time,” she says, as another confesses that there are failures on the way, heart breaks and even self-esteem crushes.

Maureen*, 24, has developed two very instrumental ‘health conditions’ that attack whenever things go wrong in any of the relationships. Because of the fatal repercussions that may occur in case she is ‘heartbroken’ the guys live in fear of leaving her and come up with a top-up for the medical expenses.

Well, she says, it has worked on several men until they woke up and saw the light and left.

Gold diggers will take time to study a man and know his weak points, for instance, he will be a helpful person and then start dropping hints like they are having trouble paying their bills.

But the generally accepted of course, is perfecting the bedroom act. The logic being that as long as the one dishing out the money is getting the expected returns, they are going to give more of it creating some sort of a circular flow of benefits.

Sometimes they might even ask you directly for a “loan” to tide them over, knowing that you do not want to see them get an eviction notice.

Characteristics

While there’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about their financial stability, long-term partnership mean depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree.

The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially.

A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you are not well off.

Most of these women and men are financially successful or at least on the way to be successful, but choose to take the ‘necessary evil ‘route.

Gold diggers always have a high sense of entitlement, feeling they deserve to be treated well, which includes believing that someone is willing to spend as much money on them.

They feel it is their right to be able to pursue their big dreams at the expense of others, and, coincidentally you are the one to make that come true.

The self-importance, preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, search for excessive admiration and envy for others who have more, are red light for any man who cares about each of his penny should look out for.

wkagwe@ke.nationmedia.com

Daily Nation

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Snake takes in its 5 hour meal

Posted by Administrator on May 21, 2010

Halfway done..burp!!!!

Halfway done..burp!!!!

Still going strong...

Still going strong...

Phew...that was big...

Phew...that was big...

ummmm....I can't move. Helloooo

ummmm....I can't move. Helloooo

That was a good lunch...some toothpicks please.... burp!

ummmm....I can't move. Helloooo

Sir....sir....got some toothpicks??? Burp! excuse me. That was a big lunch

Sir....sir....got some toothpicks??? Burp! excuse me. That was a big lunch

Source: Reader submitted by email . I am not sure this is Thika road as the reader indicated as the lizard seems like a monitor Lizard. Anyway…the pictures are something.

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Thika town: The New Nairobi Suburb

Posted by Administrator on May 20, 2010

By Ferdinand Mwongela

The Nairobi Metro 2030 vision launched by the Ministry of Nairobi Metropolitan Development in July 2008 was to make Nairobi a “world class metropolis.” Towards realising the vision, the creation of bypasses around the city was mooted and the expansion of the Thika-Nairobi Highway which is currently underway.

The ongoing Thika Rd Expansion

The ongoing Thika Rd Expansion

The expansion of the road from four to eight-lane superhighway is expected to contribute immensely to the economic and social development of Kenya and the neighbouring countries. The highway is also expected to improve mobility and transport linkages between the Nairobi Metropolitan Area satellite towns along the highway.

In anticipation of the opportunities this project will bring, developers are positioning themselves. Thika and the surrounding areas are, therefore, fast becoming the destinations of choice for property developers with mega developments headed this way in droves. This is despite the warning from engineer John Maina, the Secretary of Metropolitan Development at the ministry of Nairobi Metropolitan Development that the developers should not veer from the proposed metro vision. Agricultural hub “They should not initiate developments that would be incongruent with the original plan,” he warns.

As the property market took root as a credible investment avenue, many thought big developments would move towards the south to Kitengela and Athi River areas where there is a lot of bare land, leaving places like Thika with good land to serve as an agricultural hub.

The Metro Vision 2030 proposes the creation of economic hubs in different parts with Thika falling under an agricultural area. But this has not stopped property developers from claiming a piece of the place. Last year saw Suraya Property Group launch an ambitious development, Fourways Junction estate, on Kiambu Road, off Thika Road. The development on 200 acres of land consists of 788 housing units as well as a shopping mall, villas and a clubhouse. They followed this with another project along Thika Highway in the Juja area, Oak Valley development.

”]One of the many academic institutions along Thika Road. [Photos: MARTIN MUKANGU and Jeniffer Wachie/Standard]This development, which opens up to the highway will have two and three bedroom apartments in courtyards of 40 to 48 units and a sum total of 751 units. During the launch of the Oak Valley development Suraya Property Group’s Director, Sue Muraya said developments outside the city were the way to go, creating a community and at the same time moving development to these areas. She said moving away from the city centre has its advantages. “Developments out of town make it possible to have many units,” she said, adding that it helps an area grow by opening it up. Integrated settlements Suraya Property group are not the only ones, Anfield Holdings has a residential and commercial development on the Thika-Garissa Highway, the Flame Tree Park. This new development on a ten-acre site will have 364 housing units. For all these development, access to the capital city is a major factor thanks to the new highway and the proposed metro railway. Speaking during the handing over of a phase of the development to developers, Anfield Holdings, Housing Finance’s Managing Director, Frank Ireri said such developments were the way to go. “Integrated settlements are the future because they create economic efficiency in usage. They bring together all the elements that customers demand, which is ‘walk to work’ lifestyle, shopping complexes, facilities for leisure and entertainment,” he said. And this is the approach most developers have taken, considering the gated communities coming up to the East of the city.

Last month saw the launch of another ambitious project in Thika, a multi-billion Golf Estate by Thika Greens Limited. According to the managing director Charles Kibiru, Thika has got a lot of things going for it and will soon be seen a Nairobi suburb. However, apart from the anticipated ease of accessibility, Kibiru points out, the areas’ favourable climate is another driving factor as is the availability of land. “The weather in Thika is good,” he says.

The area boasts of a cool weather with reliable rainfall, the opposite of Kitengela and Athi River areas, which lie on the plains towards Kajiado. Three-star hotel The developers claim Thika Greens is going to be a study in sustainable development. Lying on 1,135 acres, it will be made up of two residential developments. The first a 900-unit middle-income residential phase and the second an 800-residential unit golf estate.

Other facilities on the estate include a three-star hotel, a school and a private member’s clubhouse overlooking an 18-hole championship golf course designed by a leading course architect, DDV Design Group Golf of South Africa. Kibiru says the infrastructure for the estate that costs Sh2.2 billion will begin next month. A Chinese construction company, MCC4, is the contractor.

The land on the other hand cost about Sh1.8 billion. The first phase will have about 960 houses with an average price of Sh7 million, a total of Sh6.72 billion. The estate should be complete in two years. The project coordinator Robert Bunyi said buyers had over 20 housing designs to choose from.

Gatanga MP Peter Kenneth said this would be a flagship project that will attract more development to the area that falls under his constituency. Jacaranda Garden’s Eunice Njenga says among the things attracting developers to this area is the price, saying it is cheaper than the upmarket areas in the city like Lavington while at the same time providing facilities that are just as good. She adds that the developments going on in this area are a strong selling point. Jacaranda Gardens is an 840 two, three and four-bedroom apartments coming up on Kamiti Road, off Thika Road. Common ancillary facilities include a 500 square metres swimming pool, clubhouse with modern gymnasium, commercial centre and nursery school.

Without a doubt the improved transport towards Thika town has made the town a booming real estate destination and an industrial centre.

Source: The Standard

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