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Kenyan man accused of sexual abuse of children in Pennsylvania

Posted by Administrator on October 18, 2011

Wycliffe Wephukulu faces charges of sexual abuse of children, possession of childhood pornography, invasion of privacy and related charges

Wycliffe Wephukulu faces charges of sexual abuse of children, possession of childhood pornography, invasion of privacy and related charges

SOUDERTON — A Kenyan native living in Hatfield Township accused of videotaping a minor using his private bathroom waived his right to a preliminary hearing Monday afternoon.

Wickiliffe Wepukhulu — who lives in the Hatfield Village Apartments — faces charges of sexual abuse of children, invasion of privacy and related charges from a September incident, according to court papers.

Additionally, the defendant is accused of possession of childhood pornography, three counts of invasion of privacy and possessing an instrument of crime, according to court papers. They state that eight “upskirt” videos were discovered on Wepukhulu’s cell phone and that six of those recordings were made at the Merck Technology Symposium at the Birchwood Manor in Whippany, N.J., on Sept. 20.

The defendant — through defense attorney Saul Solomon — agreed to waive his right to a hearing before District Judge Ken Deatelhauser in exchange for the prosecution withdrawing two wiretapping charges.

However, the seizure of two computers, numerous compact disks, flash drives, sandisk cards, an external hard drive, digital camera, video camera, videocassettes and Wepukhulu’s phone led to additional charges, according to court documents.

Police added two counts of invasion of privacy before the hearing.

Initially, authorities claim the defendant videotaped a minor in his bathroom without permission on Sept 28. According to court papers, Wepukhulu later apologized for making the tape, and told the victim and two other friends who were in his apartment that he had an addiction.

The defendant went into the bathroom and quickly left after the victim asked  for permission to use the facilities, according to court papers. They state that the victim later saw a video on Wepukhulu’s computer of the bathroom usage and “freaked out.”

Wepukhulu also told the victim and the two friends that he had videos of six other minors on his computer and offered to delete the videos in front of them, court papers state.

Two days after the alleged incident, Wepukhulu offered to show Hatfield police how he made the video recording in the bathroom, according to the court document. It states that during the execution of a search warrant, the defendant retrieved a small back coat/towel rack that contained a small digital spy camera and mount, two feet off the ground, that served as the wall mount for the camera.

Wepukhulu — who faces a formal arraignment on Nov. 30 in the Montgomery County Court in Norristown — was remanded to Montgomery County prison in lieu of $5,000 cash bail, according to the judges office.

Source: http://www.montgomerynews.com/articles/2011/10/17/souderton_independent/news/doc4e9ca1e36017c062867563.txt?viewmode=fullstory

 

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When did FM radio presenters become relationship and marriage counsellors?

Posted by Administrator on October 18, 2011

I was quite amused to learn recently that, once upon a time in England, the ultimate contraceptive – according to Hera Cook in her 2004 publication, The Long Sexual Revolution: English Women, Sex and Contraception 1800-1975 – was “I have a headache tonight, dear”.

This ‘‘headache’’ tagline kindled memories of callers to Kenyan FM stations, mainly ladies, engaging presenters in tales of woe with their husbands or boyfriends.

I was particularly amused because, besides the pretensions to artificial headaches being alive and kicking in popular banter on the radio talk-shows, they are neither new nor strange.

The difference, however, is that this time round, man-made headaches are no longer prevalently the contraceptive they used to be in England some time back, but an expression of gender power – whatever that might be!

Similar headaches and related creative thrusts have today become a major source of inspiration for public debates in secular FM shows.

On the other hand, I was alarmed to realise that matters that ideally ought to be directed to the priesthood and counselling outfits have now been assigned to FM radio presenters by the public.

Notably, some of the concerns – regarding relationships gone or going awry – are actually quite grave as they reveal ugly fissures that, if neglected, will certainly cost our society dearly.

In the prevailing crisis, the family unit will suffer the worst blow.

The voluntary choice by the public to anoint FM stations as centres of excellence for relationship counselling should shame the institutions and instruments that ought to handle such matters.

The very sensitivity of relationships calls for a meticulous approach to thoroughly resolving the disquiet there may be between the individuals involved, for it is true that the effects of troubled families and individuals endanger the quality of citizenship as well as productivity.

Therefore, those on whom the burden of relationship counselling falls should get very concerned that Kenyans have chosen to dump them and instead wash their dirty linen in public.

In fact, it is particularly disheartening that some of the sassy tales oozing from FM callers on air day in day out are from disenchanted faithful calling right from inside the priesthood or choir. If the callers from these quarters are not phoney, then this tells it all!

In the prevailing circumstances, it seems the confidence that congregants should adopt when forwarding their worldly afflictions and tribulations to religious ministers and counsellors has hopelessly waned.

Could it be that the priesthood is viewed just as hopelessly inept, aloof or judgmental and therefore no different from any uncontrolled audience after all?

The source of this liberal outpouring of anguish from broken hearts on air is most disturbing.

I read in it the demolition of boundaries of honour and shame quite tellingly pointed to by this liberal sharing of relationship miseries whether between spouses or boyfriends and girlfriends.

If so, this is a dangerous indicator of the collapse of the vital meshwork on which character and morality, and by extension, ‘‘souls’’ of nations are constructed.

I find it difficult to lay blame squarely on local FM stations insofar as the burden of counselling or offering relief to those bursting from the seams with pent-up frustrations is concerned.

In fact, the FM show hosts are largely innocent and do, perhaps, deserve commendation for providing a platform.

But in the first place, a breakdown of the set of rules of engagement or trust between those charged with the task of counselling and persons desiring counselling, must have occurred.

Alternatively, perhaps as society succumbed to the dynamics of change, religious outfits may have been left stuck in a time-warp where denial or a live-and-let-live attitude may have lulled monks, imams, ministers and priests into some deep sleep.

Whatever the case, if the chagrin expressed on air by FM callers – let alone the tonnes of telephone messages expressing the same – serve no notice to the gatekeepers of our national values, we must brace ourselves for unending live soap operas right in our homes cheered on by no other than our children.

God  forbid!

Dr Omondi is a social science researcher, University of Botswana

Source: http://www.nation.co.ke/oped/Opinion/-/440808/1257050/-/item/1/-/11bi4pgz/-/index.html

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Unsafe abortions kill thousands in Kenya

Posted by Administrator on October 18, 2011

Seventeen-year-old Sharon Okello still writhes in agony from the surgery that removed one of her Fallopian tubes.

The bleeding has eased, but the pain has not and she fills her one-room house in the Kibera slum in Nairobi with faint cries on the days it decides to swell up inside her.

“I got pregnant, but my boyfriend ran away and my mother was supporting my elder sister through school by herself.

“She couldn’t afford to take on another mouth to feed, so I felt like I had no choice.”

Okello came to the decision by herself, taking a cocktail of pills recommended by a friend.

A day later she collapsed at the door of the house she shared with her mother, blood streaming down her legs.

She survived after an emergency operation, but she was one of the lucky ones.

Around 21 000 Kenyan women are hospitalised every year because of complications from unsafe abortions.

An estimated 2 600 die, according to Kenya’s obstetrical and gynaecological society, from procedures carried out by untrained “professionals” in back alleys and people’s homes — well away from proper health facilities where women can be reported to the police and jailed for up to 14 years if convicted of terminating a pregnancy.

Many are reported by neighbours. Some women are reported to have bled to death in police cells.

It is, says Muhtoni Ndungu of the reproductive health and rights alliance, a problem that affects only the poor.

When you least expect it
People from all backgrounds — young and old — can fall pregnant when they least expect to, she says, but it is only those with no money who are left to deal with the worst consequences of using herbs, detergents and drug cocktails to end their pregnancies.

Coat hangers and other wire are often used. Another method involves blowing tobacco into a straw inserted into the woman’s uterus.

“Rich people can afford abortions by travelling to South Africa or elsewhere, but the poor cannot.

“This is a class issue.

“Wealthy women know where to go, making it legal for the rich, but not the poor.”

The abortion issue is heating up in Kenya.

The new Constitution, introduced last year, permits women to procure an abortion if their life is in danger.

But according to anti-abortion campaigners, the provision that allows for this was just a means of allowing abortions-on-demand in through the back door.

“This is just the first step, which means we have to step up our campaign against proponents of abortion who are better funded than us,” says Richard Kakeeto, a lawyer with Human Life International Kenya.

Two weeks ago the Kenya Medical Association held a two-day meeting to discuss the implications of the 2010 Constitution for maternal health.

Abortions-on-demand
The meeting was addressed by Sir David Steel, the man behind Britain’s 1967 Abortion Act, raising concerns among many Kenyans that abortions-on-demand are on the way.

“Those who want abortions say: ‘What other option do women in desperate situations have?’ But this is the wrong question. We need to ask what is driving women to have abortions in the first place.

“Abortion in this country is a social issue and we need to form policies to address this. Give me jobs so that women are not too poor to have children and hospitals to support them so when someone gets pregnant she does not feel like she’s being condemned to hell.”

Ndungu agrees, but says another problem is that sex is a taboo subject in Kenya, with no comprehensive sex education offered in schools.

“More than 40% of births in Kenya are unplanned and one in four married women has an unmet need for contraceptives. Yet women are ostracised if they have children out of wedlock. So the fact that women are getting abortions should not surprise us.”

It’s certainly no surprise to Professor Joseph Karanja, a gynaecologist at Kenyatta National Hospital in Nairobi, the maternal health ward of which receives about 20 admissions every day.

He says 10 of the 20 or so admissions are related to complications from unsafe abortions.

“I have been here since I was a student and it has been like this the whole way through.

“Women will seek abortions, no matter what the safety issues.”

Source: http://mg.co.za/article/2011-10-14-unsafe-abortions-kill-thousands-in-kenya/

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Habits men hate about women

Posted by Administrator on October 18, 2011

There are those little things the fairer sex do – knowingly or unknowingly – that annoy men to the bone. ALLAN OLINGO unveils them

There are some things women do thinking that it impresses their man yet it is a great put-off.

It ranges from the way she dresses and talks. Some go overboard it drives men to the brink of insanity.

I went out on a mission and unearthed things that women do or say that men hate with a passion.

‘Men are dogs’

It is a fallacy to assume that all men are dogs just because your man cheated on you. Just because you got unlucky with the men you have dated doesn’t mean all the rest are serial players.

Men hate it when a woman assumes that all of them are players.

There are a lot of good gentlemen out there and labelling them all as dogs is unfair and annoying.

Exposed cleavage

A little cleavage exposure is allowed. But too much is a put off to men. If you want a decent guy who will treat you right, then don’t dress provocatively.

It will make him think that you don’t respect yourself. A good bosom is a plus but men would not want to date a woman who shows it all.

The puff girls

Just like the cartoon Power Puff Girls, these are women who operate in a group — they are always together in the bathroom, at social joints and even in church.

They always have the same sense of style, humour and laughter. This grouping is annoying to men as it shows that a woman is not independent-minded.

Fake hair/weaves

Weaves are not bad but some women wear them for so long they look ugly. Others buy cheap ones that compromises their looks.

Some men cannot stand anything fake in a woman and the hair tops this list. It’s better to be bald than have some cheap plastic weave. It is downright annoying.

Back stabbing

Some women are almost synonymous with this habit. Most women love complaining about almost everyone and everything in their lives. It is annoying and men hate it.

Copying fashion blindly

Be it hair, dressing or even a walking style, women are known to flow with it. It is not surprising to see women walking in the streets with leggings and a T-shirt in the name of fashion. This look may be trendy on other women, but not on you.

Independence

With the empowerment of the girl-child, the woman is now so empowered it hurts. Thanks to that boost, women are now the ones calling the shots in almost all spheres of life. Empowered as you may be, do not bore him with such talk, he hates it.

Fake designer handbags

Kenyan women have a fascination with designer handbags, but this does not mean that you carry a Guchi and fool us it’s a Gucci. Most men would rather you carry a simple affordable design, than pretending with a fake Gucci handbag from China. It is an eye sore.

Too much make-up

Make-up is good, but it should be applied in moderation and expertise. When make-up is overdone, it ceases to be beautiful.

Some women insist on overdoing it thinking they look fabulous.

It is better not to apply anything at all than apply too much and end up looking trashy.

Natural is always beautiful.

The Know-it-all

Smart is sexy but a know-it-all is one annoying woman. You start up a conversation with her and she picks it and dominates it.

She thinks she knows everything from football to cars and wants a standing ovation for invading a man’s territory of knowledge.

Talking too much

If you are on a date with a guy and your phone keeps ringing, it makes the man feel uneasy. By calling you for a date, the guy was hoping to get some quality time with you.

So when the phone keeps ringing it interrupts precious moments and that is annoying to a man. It makes it even worse when you divulge details of the conversation to the man. Probably it’s some loser pestering you. This is a turn-off to most men.

Wash and wear

We all have a favourite outfit but showing up in several dates in the same stunning outfit is annoying.

That outfit may be gorgeous but give it a break. Men love to see variety. You will definitely get his attention in this stunning favourite outfit, but not for long.

Criticising other women

Men find it difficult to understand why women can’t make a simple compliment toward another woman.

If someone’s dressing or hairstyle is impressive, give it a thumbs-up. Nitpicking on it makes you uncool and men hate it.

Obsession with inspirational books

Most women have perfected the habit of reading self-help books like their life depends on it.
Walk into a matatu, a social joint and a wedding and you will find some women glued to the latest Joel Osteen book.

Majority attach some self-importance in them and men find this irritating.

The class attitude

On the first day you meet her, she oozes with class. From her orders to her talk, everything is big and expensive but weeks down the line, she starts borrowing ‘small money’ in concurrent frequencies. It is not only annoying but degrading. Be yourself.

Sex as a weapon

In an effort to show their superiority or win over an argument, some women will use men’s weak spot— sex — to their advantage.

Crying

Yes, women are emotional creatures but crying over anything from a broken nail, to a sad movie or when the dress is spoilt, is simply annoying.

Some men do not even know what to do with a crying woman. Men are sensitive too, but they are poor at comforting.

Source: http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/sports/InsidePage.php?id=2000044819&cid=300

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New skill helps Kenyan man find love

Posted by Administrator on October 18, 2011

Otieno Abala has a physical disability, due to having polio as a child. He used to scrape together a living as a cobbler.

Three years ago he was a batchelor. On a Practical Action project he learnt how to install improved stoves which were more fuel efficient, and healthier as they produce less smoke. Now he could earn more money Otieno realised that he would be able to save enough for the all-important dowry.  In Kenyan culture this is important as it shows that a man has sufficient income to keep a wife.  Now he is happily married to Caroline.

Otieno surprised trainers by learning all the skills required in a day. “The training takes nine days, but to my astonishment, he learnt the entire course in a day,” says Ms Herine Kawaka, the programme leader.

“I usually made about Sh300 (£2.50) per day as a cobbler,” says Otieno. But my life is changing due to the new skills. I am now better placed to earn more,” he beams. “Due to poverty, I was not able to gain formal education. This limited the jobs I could secure or business I could venture into.”

He says physically-challenged people become dependent on other people because they cannot get education or buy aids like wheelchairs: “If I had a wheelchair in my childhood, perhaps I would have become even a teacher.”

Otieno is determined to get ahead in spite of a lack of formal education. Already, he has spent the money earned from the project to pay a dowry.

A new wife

His new wife Caroline says he is caring and hard-working. Otieno says the new business pays for all his daily needs, reducing dependence on his parents and six siblings. But he faces a number of challenges.

“Last week, I went to fix a jiko (improvised stove) in Ng’iya market, three kilometres from here. By the end of the day, I was very tired,” he says. “On some days, I get many orders. Potential clients get disappointed when I fail to turn up to install their jiko on time.”

A client, Margaret Achieng, says Otieno fixed hers a month ago: “He did the work within 30 minutes and assured me the jiko would function well. Indeed it has.”

A typical day

On a typical day, Otieno wakes up at 6am and hits the road to whichever homestead needs his skills first. “I call it a day at around 6pm. I then spend some time with my wife before going to bed at 10pm.” Otieno says most physically challenged people suffer as a result of lack of funds to support them.

Source: Practicalaction.org

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